When it comes to wedding guest etiquette, even the most well-meaning guests can sometimes get it wrong. Whether it's showing up late, wearing white, or forgetting to RSVP, there are a few common pitfalls that can detract from a couple's big day. If you've got a wedding coming up and want to ensure you’re the picture of poise and respect, here are the biggest guest faux pas to avoid—and what to do instead.
1. Don’t Wear White (or Anything Too Close to It)
What Not to Do: Avoid white, ivory, champagne, or anything that could be mistaken for bridal. This is one of the most traditional etiquette rules that still holds firm today.
What to Do Instead: Opt for colors that match the season or the wedding theme. Jewel tones, pastels, and classic navy or blush are always safe choices. If in doubt, lean into florals or metallics for festive flair.
2. Don’t Skip the RSVP (or Miss the Deadline)
What Not to Do: Failing to RSVP or replying after the deadline makes planning difficult for the couple.
What to Do Instead: RSVP promptly, and be sure to follow instructions on the invite (e.g., include your meal choice or indicate a plus one if allowed).
3. Don’t Assume a Plus One Is Included
What Not to Do: Bringing a guest when you weren't invited to do so can cause logistical and budget issues.
What to Do Instead: If your invitation doesn’t mention a guest, attend solo. Respect the couple’s choices and understand that guest lists are often tight.
4. Don’t Arrive Late
What Not to Do: Walking in during the ceremony is disruptive.
What to Do Instead: Aim to arrive at least 20 minutes early to find your seat, settle in, and soak in the moment.
5. Don’t Post Photos Too Soon
What Not to Do: Posting ceremony pictures before the couple has shared their own can be inconsiderate.
What to Do Instead: Wait until you’ve seen the couple post first, or ask if there's a hashtag or photo-sharing rule in place.
6. Don’t Get Too Tipsy
What Not to Do: Overindulging in alcohol can lead to unwanted attention or behavior
What to Do Instead: Enjoy yourself, but know your limits. Focus on celebrating with grace and joy.
7. Don’t Wear Something Too Casual or Revealing
What Not to Do: Jeans, flip-flops, or overly revealing outfits are rarely appropriate.
What to Do Instead: Follow the dress code. If it's unclear, opt for semi-formal or cocktail attire. A tasteful cocktail dress, gown, or sleek jumpsuit is a polished choice.
Final Thoughts
Being a thoughtful wedding guest is all about honoring the couple’s day with grace, joy, and respect. With a little attention to etiquette and some planning ahead, you can avoid any fashion or social missteps—and enjoy the celebration as it was meant to be.
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